Listening follows the thoughts and feelings of another and understands what the other is saying from his or her perspective. Reflecting is the ability to “check out,” where you express the essence of the content and the feeling the other has communicated to you.
Storytellers have been combining songs and stories for millions of years, and to this day, many cultures tell stories in song. As the listener, your response is short, succinct, and stated in your own words. It is important to check out and verify your accurate perception of small segments of another person’s communication.
Reflective listening is a special type of listening that involves paying respectful attention to the content and feeling expressed in other persons’ communication. Reflective listening is hearing and understanding and then letting the other know that they are being heard and understood.
Music is an art form universally recognized for its mood-altering qualities and its ability to affect behavior. It’s an intricate expression of controllable elements that helps influence the way people interpret your message.
Reflective listening can be characterized as an intellectual and affective activity that leads individuals to explore and revisit experiences and develop new understandings and perspectives (Donlan, 2018). Using reflective listening, find the song lyrics that summarize your year. Please see mine, and hopefully, you will quickly identify my good and challenging years.
“When I ask you to listen to a song, it’s because the lyrics mean everything I’m trying to say to you.”
Music has always been a powerful tool for expression. There are a lot of songs out there that can describe someone’s life. Some are sad, some are happy, some are dramatic, some are smooth and quiet. There always seems to be a song out there that can express some type of emotion I am feeling
2020: Yo no sé ni qué hacer cuando estoy cerca de ti (Uh, wuh). Tus ojos color café se apoderaron de mí (Yih). Muero por un beso de esos que no son de amigos (Ey). Me di cuenta que por esa sonrisa yo vivo (¡Yah!) – Raul Alejandro
- Translation: I don’t even know what to do when I’m near you (Uh, wuh). Your brown eyes took hold of me (Yih). I’m dying for a kiss from those that aren’t meant for friends (Hey). I realized that by that smile, I live (Yah!) – Raul Alejandro
- The L word was said
2019: Hey, baby, we can dance slowly. My darlin’, I’ll be all you need (you need). I know it hasn’t been your day, your week, your week, your week, so put it all on me (woo). Oh, my darlin’, put your worries on me; can’t judge me ’cause I feel the same thing, and I’m here for whenever you need, you need, you need. To put it all on me – Ed Sheeran
- I began opening myself to love and something other than school.
2018: I want adventure in the great wide somewhere. I want it more than I can tell. I want so much more than they’ve got planned – Belle, Beauty and the Beast
- I began my first year in my doctoral program, and I began traveling due to a promise I made myself.
2017: And I know I make the same mistakes every time, bridges burn, I never learn, at least I did one thing right – Taylor Swift
- Transition to healthcare and learned to speak up against horrible bosses. I am aware this song came out in 2018.
2016: This is my big hello cause I’m here and never letting go. I can finally see, it’s not just a dream, when you set it all free, all free, all free – Scarlett Johansson
- This was the year I quit the field of higher education.
2015: Am I wrong for thinking out the box from where I stay? Am I wrong for saying that I choose another way? But that’s just how I feel – Nico & Vinz
- This song would play every time I would take my dad to physical therapy
2014: I’m grateful for the storm, which made me appreciate the sun. I’m grateful for the wrong ones, which made me appreciate the right ones. I’m grateful for the pain for everything that made me break. I’m thankful for all my scars ‘Cause they only make my heart Grateful – Rita Ora
- My dad became a stroke survivor
2013: Now, I’m out here looking like revenge, feeling like a ten, the best I’ve ever been. And yeah, I know how bad it must hurt to see me like this, but it gets worse – Demi Lovato
- I graduated with my master’s degree, felt like a true ten. I am aware this song came out in 2017.
2012: Always do it on my own, so I gotta get through it, and the only thing I know is to love what I’m doing. Never give up, never slow till I finally prove it. Never listen to the no’s, I just wanna keep moving – NEFFEX
- Learn to do many things on my own and learned about myself. I am aware this song came out in 2018.
2011: Hey, I just met you, and this is crazy, but here’s my number, so call me maybe. It’s hard to look right at you baby, but here’s my number, so call me maybe – Carly Rae Jepsen
- I think this is the year where I was single and ready to mingle and explore.
2010: Ame la mejole biggi biggi mubbo wa A to Z. Asi tsu zala makyuni biggi biggi mubbo from East to West. Asi waga waga ma eh eh waga waga ma eh eh. Tendency suna tsibuye ’cause this is Africa (Africa, Africa Africa)
- Translation: Teams are back to defend their country, from A to Z. They eliminate the other teams to defend their country from East to West. As they say, come, come, eh, eh, come, come, eh, eh. All countries must come back ’cause this is Africa!
- I started my master’s program and, of course, the World Cup.
Good listening requires attention to both the thoughts and feelings expressed by the other individual. Instead of using responding quickly, use reflective listening to enhance the quality of the communication.
- Donlan P. (2018). Developing Affective Domain Learning in Health Professions Education. J Allied Health. 2018;47(4):289-295.
- Katz, Neil dan Kevin McNulty. (1994). Reflective Listening.